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RAISING CHILDREN: Is It Harder These Day's?

We always hear that it much harder to raise children/teen's in this day and age. But do you think that's is true? I mean in all reality, we should better. I mean there is more equality between men and women. Couples have the ability to be better partners, better friends to each other and their children. Emotions can be shared better. We just have more to work with in this time. But yet still, it seem's so messed up! Everything dose seem more chaotic and messy and in some case's corrupted. Just count the way's! We have a lot more people abandoning families, broken families (married or not) cheating is a real issue today. We then in turn, make it a much harder time to raise kid's I'd guess. So is it really harder to raise kid's in this day and age? And dose it have to be? THOUGHTS?

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Well, we can't tell. We weren't around back in the day. And back in the day, they didn't have all the health care, etc. etc. that we do now. I think that, really, it's just different. Times change and the issues we face change, but the fact that raising kids is hard doesn't. *l* There's a reason there's a saying that goes: "It takes a village to raise a child."
It doesn't have to be- It's when i raise my children with my christianity values that other people seem to shun christians now... I dont mind that susie has two moms- But i wouldnt like it crammed down their throat- We dont agree with it, but I would never shun people for it- Why shun me cause I am a christian? I appreciate the "ellen's" and not the "Rosie's"- We would all be able to live together harmoniously if we werent so quick to judge others- I will teach my children this. I work for a foster / adoption agency- there is hope for children- I have read where these children are coming from- and keeping them in the system will only do more damage- We need more families to take these children and give them a chance- If more people will step up- get over the FAD of adopting outside of the US there would be a great change and it wouldnt be harder to raise children. Just need to start with the parents. When you erase every excuse it should all come back on the parents.
It's mainly due to the fact that it's darn near impossible for people to raise kids on one income. Both parents are working nowadays, while 40 years ago, mother's were usually home. Single parents often have to work 2 and 3 jobs, so the kids are with other people. They lose some of the family bond that people used to have, because they're not together as much. It's not a choice though. It's necessary to bring in a paycheck. Still...parents CAN raise kids with good values. They just need to use the time they have with them...to show them by example and to talk with them and get to know their kids. Parents need to build a bond between themselves and their children. It's not physical discipline that keeps kids in line...it's the sense of accountability to their parents and family. If they are close to their parents, they generally don't want to disappoint them, so they don't get into as much trouble.
I will say if you where raised in a home with strict rules , good moral and good manners and continue to be like that you will pass it on to your kids and will be change something that you wish your parents where like that to you .. For example to be more like a friend and feel free to talk about all kinds of topics.. Or give them liberty but libertinism, be strict and fair with them.. Maybe things like this and with the same manners and morals kids will end up being good adults and will pass on the same things to their kids & spend quality time with them, telling them that we love them & do care for them not only by words but showing them .. they will be good kids. But there are other parents that really don't care about their kids or what they do because they are so bussy working & dot' have time for them this are kids that end up doing what they want .. But I don't think it is hard to raise your kids , we as parents need to know how to deal with them so they will not end up in the wrong road.. This is just my personal opinion !! :)
I think it seems harder to raise children these days because technology is often way ahead of what parents' dealt with in their own childhood. The difference is that today's parents are more adaptable than the parents of the baby boomers. Most parents are using the same technology their children so embrace, so are able to keep up on the concerns as well as the positives using it. Many parents make as stupid of choices as their children (i.e. driving while using a hand-held cell phone). The biggest difference is that there are fewer secrets. There is no more cheating going on today than years ago--it's just out in the open. Current stats indicate that 60% of married men will cheat on their wives at least once, 15% of women. In the 60s, 75% of married men cheated while only 8% of women. As chaotic as it is there are two very important social issues that have improved. People no longer have the social stigma to remain in a bad marriage and children born out of wedlock are less likely to be stigmatized, so are not adopted out. I'm certainly no expert in social disarray, but until people relearn how to make good choices and learn committment, I guess we just have to go through this stage. Hopefully, we'll come out the better for it on the other side.
It is easier these days I think because we are all provided with more education and advice than before. Every parent has a choice to improve, unfortunately they choose not to and the kids pay the price.